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Good fences make good neighbors

February 25, 2007 · 13 Comments

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Do good fences make good neighbors? In what kind of neighborhood do you live in? Do you have good neighbors? What kind of neighbor are you? What are some problems that may happen between neighbors? What do you think you can do to improve your neighborhood and your relationship with your neighbors?

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13 responses so far ↓

  • Alberto Câmara (Top Flex 1 - Taguatinga) // February 27, 2007 at 10:08 pm | Reply

    Good fences makes good neighbors, because it’s important to people have a privacy. My neighborhood is vry cool, I have many friends there, since I was a child. The most are kinds, but there are some that make a many noises and bored us. I think that I am a good neighbor, because I am very prestative. The worst problem that can happen with neighbors, in my opinion, is a noise in the night. I think I can do some party and invite all, so my relationship with my neighbors can improve more.

  • joseantoniook // February 28, 2007 at 12:50 am | Reply

    Hi Alberto,
    Nice comment you have posted Alberto. You are so lucky to be living in the same neighborhood since childhood. It is really a priviledge to have friends for such a long time. I agree with you that noise can be a problem some neighbors can cause.
    Big hug

  • Elisabeth Blom // February 28, 2007 at 12:09 pm | Reply

    I agree . I like to be friendly with my neighbors – and to have friendly neighbors, too. However, there is a limit. I dislike people that knock on my door too often to borrow things. I also don’t like people who feel too comfortable in my place, that is, people who open the refrigerator and help themselves. Fortunately, I’ve never had this kind of neighbors…

    Jose Antonio on March 1st at 18:29 Replied
    Dear Beth Blom,
    I also like to be friendy with my neighbors and I have been lucky to have good one´s. Here where I live, people are so nice. Like you, I would also feel annoyed if my neighbors started knocking on my door to borrow things.
    Cheers
    Jose

  • Felipe topflex taguá // February 28, 2007 at 2:50 pm | Reply

    Neigbors are people that don’t know your limits.
    Our private lives are like diamonds and must been protected.

    Jose Antonio on March 1st at 18:33 replied
    Dear Felipe
    I agree with you that neighbors sometimes can be really annoying and inconvenient and just do not have a sense of community and disrespect our very right to privacy. Thank God this is not always the case. There are lots of nice neighbors out there.
    Cheers
    Jose

  • celso henrique // February 28, 2007 at 3:53 pm | Reply

    It is good have neighbors, the bad isn’t to respect the law of the others people. It is important to know to respect the habits, customs and laws of the people, but contributes very much to have position and attitudes that contemplate the community, as well as to have access to the neighbors to talk.

    Jose Antonio on March 1st 2007 at 18:38 replied
    Hi Celso,
    Good to know you like to have neighbors. I am a teacher and I just love to around people. I agree with you that many times lack of respect make things difficult among neighbors. You so right about the importance of respecting the habits and customs of others.
    Hugs
    Jose

  • João Carlos // February 28, 2007 at 10:46 pm | Reply

    “Good fences make good neighbors”. I agree, We should have a nice relationship because we`ll live near for a long time. When you need some help, the nearest people of you will be your neighbors.

    Jose Antonio on March 1st 2007 at 18:41 replied

    Hi João,

    I agree with you if people thnk about the time they will have to spend with their neighbors they would make an effort to have a good relationship with them.

    Big hug
    Jose

  • Ana Emília // February 28, 2007 at 10:58 pm | Reply

    My neighbors is a good friend. She helps me all time. When I need anythink, she sad “I’m here”. I think important you have many friend, but good neighbors is important to. I’d like that my neighbors done all good friends.

    Jose Antonio on March 1st 2007 at 18:14 replied
    Hi Ana Emília,
    Very nice to know you have a neighbor you can count on. I am also very fortunate to have my share of good neighbors. I agree with you that it is important to have friends and good neighbors too that may become one of your friends.

    Cheers
    Jose

  • Marco Antônio da Silva // February 28, 2007 at 11:00 pm | Reply

    I have good neighboors. I like to have a relationship with my neighboors . I agree with sentence: ” Good Fences make good neighboor” because I believe that a good relationship starts with limits. The problems that may happen with my neighboors are problems caused by their dogs. Also I don’t like when their parties happen after 10 p. m because I have two children that sleep in this time.

    Jose Antonio on March 1st 2007 at 18:48 replied

    Dear Marco Antonio
    So you have the luck to have good neighbors, and from the comments I have read so far, I am sure you are not the only one. I agree with you that limits are important in building relationships. Dogs can be really annoying sometimes and cause problems between neighbors. I agree that parties at certain times annoy people and ar ea source of disturbance.

    Cheers
    Jose

  • Henrique // February 28, 2007 at 11:01 pm | Reply

    Most peolple don’t know to respect the limits, if they know we don’t need fences.
    My neighborhood is good, but there is a coincidence: our fences is very high.
    I’m a kind of neighbor that try to live my life without to disturb my neighborhood.
    It’s very common neighbors complain about loud music.
    It’s very important to improve our neighborhood and our relationship with the neighbors, to think about our actions. Would I like that my neighbors did that with me? If the answer is not, it is better not to do.

    Jose Antonio on March 1st 2007 at 18:54 replied
    Hi Henrique,

    I totally agree with you that some people don´t know how to respect limits and this is the cause of most of the problems among neighbors. Soemtimes, ironically, only high walls are a guaranty of good relationship. I alos agree that the problem lies in not thinking about our actions and putting ouselves in the shoes of others.

    Cheers
    Jose

  • Cátia regina // February 28, 2007 at 11:01 pm | Reply

    I agree that fences make good naighbors
    I have many good neighbors, I live in a condo and I only talk with them in elevator
    or in condo’s party.
    Some of them are very kind and quiet, there have many universitary who love party with loud music,but no problem, we are living in peace.

    Jose Antonio on March 1st 2007 at 19:01 replied
    Hi Catia,

    Good to know you have good neighbors. College studens can sometimes be really a problem because they usually like loud music and partying, but like you said, we have to make an effort to live in peace.

    Hugs
    Jose

  • Felipe Alcantara (Top Flex 1 - Taguatinga) // March 12, 2007 at 5:29 pm | Reply

    5 questions??? So I’ll try to answer one by one:
    -I think good fences put bad neighbors on their place… far from me! The other neighbors just need to knock the door.
    -I live in a neighborhood with Taguatinga’s people, I mean, lots of people around you each one with there own business and don’t mind for the others… that’s Brasilia’s way of life!
    -In fact, I think I’m a nice guy… I know people who likes to stay near me… ^^
    -Sontimes people try to invade our lives beginning by transpass the door… without our clearance.
    -I can try (again) to get a full conversation with my neighbors when I’m in the elevator…

  • Felipe Alcantara (Top Flex 1 - Taguatinga) // March 12, 2007 at 5:31 pm | Reply

    Ops… where’s the EDIT tool??? Only now I seen… several wrong words…

  • joseantoniook // March 14, 2007 at 11:49 am | Reply

    Hi Felipe,

    I agree that good fences are what, many times, stop people from intruding into our lives and our private space. And like you said, cities are always crowded with a big diversity of people and this may create some problems.
    Concerning mistakes, do not worry. Blogs are for communication and the objective is tto get your voice heard (rea).
    Big hug
    J. Antonio

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